There is no easy way to say this, so I shall just come out with it. The loss of a loved one is not something that we ever wish to experience and yet it happens to all of us at some point in our lives. Since we are all different from each other, we all deal with it in different ways. However, the intense sadness that envelops us at the time is universal and can be overcome only by taking time to grieve the loss.
For most of us, the process of grieving begins with denial and ends only when we accept what has happened and start dealing with it in a positive manner. Only when you make peace with what has happened can let you go and move on to live a happy life that is not burdened with fear, anger and guilt.
While dealing with the loss of a loved one, be it a parent, spouse, sibling or a friend, seek all the help you can get. Do not hesitate to find support anywhere you can get it. You can turn to friends and family to help you tide this tough time. Do not build a wall between your friend and yourself. You can also draw comfort from your faith. In fact, the mourning rituals outlined by most religions are designed for this very purpose.
Joining a support group can also be of tremendous help in finding an expression and providing a release to your emotions. Sharing your bereavement with others going through a similar phase can help in coming to terms with the loss you are experiencing and heal you. Grief counselors and therapists can also aid you in working through the complex emotional web that you may feel entangled in post your loved one’s demise.
Finally, be kind to yourself, and allow yourself to feel happy by doing things that you love. Remember, that your loved one will always be there in your heart for you to cherish.
”Do not stand at my grave and cry
I am not there.
I did not die. ”
By Prerna Daga