The two of you used to be together, for whatever reasons that did not work out and now the relationship is history. In theory, it ought to be a simple thing: to forgive, forget and move on. Surely it is possible to restore a degree of amicability between two people. Certainly there are many instances of it in Bollywood – couples such as Ranbir Kapoor and Deepika Padukone; Salman Khan and Katrina Kaif were famous for being together. They parted ways but later did successful films together.
But is really possible? You still want to be friends – is it possible to stay friends after break up?
She’s Changed Her FB Status – Already!
OK, so the relationship ended, but did she have to be in such a tearing great hurry to announce herself ‘single’ again? That really hurt! You cannot forgive that!
Well He Moved on…
Well Shakespeare said it, not me – hell hath no fury such as a woman scorned… OK so you are no longer an item, but he now has the temerity, the sheer unmitigated gall to have found someone else! Such obscene haste!
What’s This – She’s A Swinging Bachelorette Again
It is one thing to find solace in the arms of some bimbo/himbo. But somehow it is even worse that she seems to be having that good a time with her clubbing and drinking buddies. Does she not miss me – like – at all? That beast!
She Took An Exotic Holiday? Unbearable!
You had always vowed to visit Goa together! And now look at that Facebook update: lolling on the beach in that skimpy outfit. And is that some new male friend you see in that picture? Shameless hussy!
You’ve er…. SEEN Each Other
You were together for a long while. You’ve seen each other laugh, cry, dress, undress….. You’ve seen each other at your best and at your worst. There are a lot of memories and it may be best to not to revisit them.
Being That Mature is too Much of An Effort!
And guess what? That’s OK! Who said you had to be all grownup and rational and sensible about matters of the heart. If you want to scream and cry and be generally unhappy, that’s OK. We do understand. Just don’t wallow too long, OK?
You REALLY Don’t Need the Aggravation
Once you’ve gotten over your angst, you probably realise that you don’t really need that person in your life. She did’nt let you go bungee jumping when you wanted to. He always had a problem when you wanted to make time for your hobbies. If that person wanted you to be someone other than who you really are, do you really need them in your life?
You Can Be Your Own BBF
Who says you need that significant other in your life to be complete? You are not alone; your family and friends are there for you. And learning to be happy by yourself; revisiting the idea that you can be your own friend can be a good idea. No matter what Tom Cruise said in Jerry McGuire. You Complete Me is a wonderfully romantic line, but you don’t need someone else to complete you.
But… She Looks Happy!
So can you be happy. Really! It’s the end of the relationship but not the end of the world. This too shall pass.
Besides, You’re Not a Celeb
Ranbir Kapoor and Deepika Padukone got paid mucho moolah to act in Yeh Jawaani Hai Deewani even when they were no longer an item. Slaman Khan and Katrina Kaif did Ek Tha Tiger because this was a good thing for their respective careers.
Why should you want to be friends even after parting? What’s in it for you? Aren’t there more fish in the sea? Valid questions there!
By – Reena Daruwalla
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